I want casual sex!!

I met a guy online and we hit it off.  We kissed after our first time meeting, then went to lunch the next day.  I don’t think he is my future boyfriend...there is something a little odd about this guys. Plus he kind of smelled like my Grandfather (weird, I know).  But he thinks Im hot and I think he’s hot…plus Im 34 and single…Im in my prime! So I started freaking out about “the talk” I needed to have with him before we could get it on! 

I usually wait a while and bring up other topics first (i.e. I mention how I was really sick for such a long time, and how I would have died if I didn’t have this surgery, etc).  But I decided to just tell him. Just spit it out!  I starting getting really shy and couldn’t get it out of my mouth – I was making it worse then it really is….and he started to panic.  Anyway, I finally spit it out – and he was almost relieved. He said, “really?  That’s it?”  Apparently he thought I was going to tell him I used to be a man, or “down there” doesn’t work. LOL

[UPDATE] I didn’t end up sleeping with him. I really didn’t like him that much, I guess I was just in a mood and wanted to have sex…or have the option of having sex.  Anyway, I was so proud of myself that I got “the talk” out of the way.  Practice makes perfect!

Casual Sex

I have an ostomy, and we haven’t been dating long enough that I feel comfortable telling him.  Ya know, it’s a big long story, and well…I think this guy is hot and I want to sleep with him. So, we started fooling around. He kept trying to take off my pants…so I let him.  I had spandex type of boyshorts on that were covered in a top layer of lace, so he couldn’t see my ostomy at all. But before he started feeling around I told him I had just had surgery on my abdomen and I was self-conscience about what it looked like since it was bandaged up.  We had gone out on a few dates and I had mentioned that I had Crohn’s Disease. I like to tell people on the 1^st or 2^nd date, just to see how familiar they are with it and see what kinds of questions they ask. Anyway, back to the bedroom discussion….He didn’t think anything about the fact that I was self conscience.  He put on a condom and pulled my panties over to the side…and we went at it. 

We casually dated for a few months, and continued sleeping together on occasion (same way as described above).  I knew he wasn’t going to be the “one” so I didn’t even bother telling him…eventually our relationship dwindled.

(By no way am I condoning casual sex…these are just my experience that maybe can help someone!)