I want casual sex!!

I met a guy online and we hit it off.  We kissed after our first time meeting, then went to lunch the next day.  I don’t think he is my future boyfriend...there is something a little odd about this guys. Plus he kind of smelled like my Grandfather (weird, I know).  But he thinks Im hot and I think he’s hot…plus Im 34 and single…Im in my prime! So I started freaking out about “the talk” I needed to have with him before we could get it on! 

I usually wait a while and bring up other topics first (i.e. I mention how I was really sick for such a long time, and how I would have died if I didn’t have this surgery, etc).  But I decided to just tell him. Just spit it out!  I starting getting really shy and couldn’t get it out of my mouth – I was making it worse then it really is….and he started to panic.  Anyway, I finally spit it out – and he was almost relieved. He said, “really?  That’s it?”  Apparently he thought I was going to tell him I used to be a man, or “down there” doesn’t work. LOL

[UPDATE] I didn’t end up sleeping with him. I really didn’t like him that much, I guess I was just in a mood and wanted to have sex…or have the option of having sex.  Anyway, I was so proud of myself that I got “the talk” out of the way.  Practice makes perfect!

Accept it!

If you don’t accept it how will he ever accept it?  If you're self conscience then he’s going to be on edge.  You have to accept that you have an ostomy and not let it define you – be sexy!  Act like its not there…and go for it! 

She has the perfect body – and she's still self-conscience

My girl friend who has been married for just over 1 year told me that she is not in the mood to have sex with her husband because she has gain some weight and she feels unattractive. I got so mad at her…she is beautiful with a nice flat stomach, long legs, perky boobs…and not a scar on her body.  She knows about my ostomy surgery and was there with me when I was sick with Crohn’s in and out of the hospital and during the adjustment period of having my ostomy.  I told her, “if men still find me sexy naked, then I am damn sure your husband finds you sexy with or without the extra 10 pounds.” 

It just goes to show…even the girls with the bodies we can only dream of having still have self-esteem issues. We are never happy with our bodies…that is just the nature of women and the stress society puts on us.  I vividly remember reading an article about how Jessica Simpson (in the height of her career and in the best physical shape I have seen her in) said that she wasn’t happy with size of her butt.  I knew then and there, it doesn’t matter how skinny you are (or if you have scars, etc), we are never happy with what we look like. 

So don’t be so hard on yourself.  You are who you are…and you can be sexy no matter what!